Sacred Bloom: A Healing Room for Women

By Char’Ketha “Charlie” Hemphill

Founder, Sacred Bloom Coaching & Wellness

The Silent Fight

Men’s mental health has been a quiet battle for generations. Society has told our men that tears are weakness and emotion is unmanly. They’ve been programmed to believe strength means silence, and vulnerability means failure.

But that couldn’t be further from the truth.

“A healed man looks good in society.”
“This man makes a great father and husband.”

A healed man walks in purpose. He leads with wisdom. He builds with peace.

We must start making mental health a priority, especially for our men.

Psalm 34:18 (KJV):
“The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.”

Even the strongest man can break. But God is near in those moments, ready to rebuild what the world told him to hide.

The Spiritual and Ancestral Battle

Our men are not just battling the weight of today, they are carrying wars that began centuries ago.
There are spiritual and ancestral wounds that still echo through generations.

Since the days of slavery, men have been taught that strength meant silence, that power came only through endurance. Yet they were broken mentally by systemic oppression, racial injustice, and forced humiliation.

They were chained, beaten, and stripped of their dignity.
Many were forced to fight each other to the death for their oppressor’s amusement.
Their wives were taken and violated before their eyes, their children ripped from their arms.
They were hunted by dogs, dehumanized, and sold naked on auction blocks reduced to property, yet expected to remain “strong.”

That pain didn’t disappear; it was inherited.
It lived on in generations of men who learned to suppress emotion, to mask pain, to survive instead of heal.

Exodus 3:7 (KJV):
“I have surely seen the affliction of my people… and have heard their cry.”

God saw their suffering then and He sees our men now. The battle they fight is not just physical, but spiritual. The war is for their minds, hearts, and identities.

Healing our men means breaking those ancestral chains, reclaiming their right to feel, to heal, and to be whole.

When Pain Turns Silent

Recently, a Dallas Cowboy NFL player took his own life masking his pain behind a smile, carrying the weight of a society that says men aren’t allowed to feel. That story broke my heart because it reflects a deeper truth: men are struggling in silence.

In our Black communities, this silence is magnified by stigma. Our men have carried centuries of pressure: racism, fatherlessness, systemic injustice, and the expectation to be “unbreakable.”

But the truth is, suppression becomes destruction. When emotions are buried alive, they resurface through anger, substance abuse, domestic conflict, and even suicide.

1 Peter 5:7 (KJV):
“Casting all your care upon Him; for He careth for you.”

God never asked men to carry the world alone. He asks them to cast their burdens and allow healing to begin.

A Mother’s Heart and a Son’s Strength

As a mother of a 13-year-old boy, I’ve made a vow: my son will not inherit generational trauma.

He began counseling at age eleven, and it changed everything. Life grew lighter. Our conversations became deeper. His awareness of self and emotion blossomed. My son is also autistic, and every day he faces new challenges with courage and grace.

He often tells me, “Mama, I’m built different, so I have to move differently.”

That statement carries wisdom beyond his years. My job as his mother is to protect his peace, nurture his mental health, and remind him that being different is divine.

Proverbs 22:6 (KJV):
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Counseling, prayer, and community are part of that training. Healing starts early.

Breaking the Stigma

I was raised in a family of strong women who gave birth to strong boys. I’ve watched the men in my family wrestle with anger, pride, and pain some too proud to ask for help until life humbled them. Yet, those who chose healing found freedom.

Because God’s love is powerful, but faith without works is dead. Healing requires action.

James 2:17 (KJV):
“Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone.”

A healed man leads with purpose, speaks life into his home, and anchors his family with love and accountability.
An unhealed boy in a man’s body, however, becomes stagnant: avoiding growth, resisting correction, and often spreading the very pain he refuses to confront.

The Power of Help

It’s time we redefine strength. True strength is asking for help.
True maturity is accountability.

Counselors, pastors, and coaches are not replacements for faith they are extensions of God’s grace. They help uncover the wounds we’ve learned to hide. Speaking to someone neutral, someone honest, can be the very step that saves a life.

Proverbs 11:14 (KJV):
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.”

As men break cycles, they create new patterns for themselves, their children, and generations to come.

A Message to Our Men

Your mental health matters.
Your peace matters.
You matter.

We all have a divine purpose, and mental health is part of the foundation that allows us to live prosperously single or married, father or son, leader or learner.

As modern women often say, “No one wants to do your mama’s job or date someone’s little boy.”
And it’s true. A man who refuses healing becomes a burden; a man who seeks healing becomes a blessing.

Because when we know better, we must do better.

Romans 12:2 (KJV):
“Be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Healing isn’t just personal it’s generational.

💬 Final Reflection

Let’s encourage our men to cry, to pray, to talk, to heal.
Let’s remind them that God made them strong, but not silent.

A healed man doesn’t just lead his home well he “changes” the world around him.

Until next time,
– Coach Charlie
The Sacred Bloom Room: Healing for Women & Families